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My younger self would probably be laughing. He would call me crazy. “Why?! We promised to never do new year’s resolutions! How could you?!” he would say, feeling betrayed.

I have to say that my younger self was ignorant and pretentious. He was always looking for some form of authenticity. Therefore, never finding actual authenticity. He would refuse to look at himself and run when being confronted.

And that’s fine. It must have been the age.

Five years ago, I had moved out and lived barely half a year on my own. I was rushing everything. I wanted everyone to…

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I am a big nerd when it comes to data. For some reason, I’m the guy that gets really excited when doing research, because of the data analysis. In one of my first statistics courses at university, my tutor asked us a question: “Which one of you enjoys statistics?” Suddenly, my arm got a life of its own and raised itself. I couldn’t stop myself from shouting that I loved data and statistics.

During that course, I realised that when I was looking at data, I was also thinking about how to improve certain things. …

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As September approached, I found myself stressing more and more. All summer I had been working on improving my physical health, general energy, and mental balance. I did it because I finally had ‘plenty’ of time to do so. However, I knew that university would start again in September, and together with my job, it would mean less free time. And then, all these changes; virtual classes, different assignments, having to write my thesis — let’s not think about my thesis yet. …

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This year I got diagnosed with Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). This diagnosis made so much sense to me. I used to struggle a lot with structure and discipline. However, for some reason, I never had struggles with passing classes. Therefore, my parents never believed me when I told them that I had so much difficulty studying. They always told te to not complain and just focus. Easier said than done. So, obviously, I never got diagnosed with ADHD at the time. This changed this year.

One of the general characteristics of people with ADHD — which most people…

A friend of mine once told me: “Simple is not easy.” Of all the things I learnt from him, this is most likely the most important one. Not that I actually understood what he meant back then. I think that he had to explain it to me in different ways at first before I could even get its notion. Eventually, I understood what he meant. Whereas it didn’t resonate with me at the time, it does now.

For a long time, I thought that complexity would result in a more dynamic life. I was convinced that it would mean more…

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Smoking was probably one of the habits I hated most about myself. I still don’t seem to understand why I did it for such a long time. Well, that might be a lie. I actually do understand why I smoked. I started smoking due to social pressure. I wanted to fit in the ‘cool group’. I wanted to identify myself with them. Looking back, I don’t think I was ever really addicted. It was just a way to keep identifying myself with people that I longed to be identified with.

After listening to James Clear’s ‘Atomic Habits’, I began to…

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